When people ask about my personal love language, I have a tough time answering with an answer that fits the conventional five categories. Probably, it's a combination of "quality time" and "physical touch", but there's a lot more to it than that.
My more nuanced answer is that I feel most loved when someone asks me a heartfelt question. A question that shows they've been listening to what I've shared about myself and my experience, they've empathized with where I'm at, and they want to dig deeper with me. Sometimes, those questions come from a place of curiosity, wanting to know more about my heart. Sometimes those are rhetorical questions, as they've taken time to really listen and understand where I'm at, they can imagine the next step of growth for me before I can even see it, and the question is aimed at guiding me to the answer.
I long for the intimacy of deeply understanding one another's experience, and I cherish the spiritual companionship that comes from supporting one another's evolution.
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Since questions are verbalized or written in words, I feel that words of affirmation still can be a primary love language for you, except that it’s beyond the conventional connotations of words themselves. The focuses on the personal connections and intentions one has with those choice of words and inquiries that demonstrate how they are present with you and desire you and growing your relationship further. Of course, this level of heartfelt affirmations/questions require quality time (presence) to unfold, and a heartfelt touch always helps to give and receive more deeply. ;)